Interview with Anita Moorjani – Part 1

Anita Moorjani has become something of an international sensation since her book ‘Dying To Be Me’ hit the New York Times bestsellers list only two weeks after its release in March, 2012.
Anita had experienced what most people never have; she ‘crossed over’ and came back to share what she learned. Her remarkable NDE (Near-Death Experience) and subsequent healing from end-stage cancer is one of the most amazing cases ever recorded.
More about Anita’s story can be found on her Soul Love profile page.

Anita Moorjani - Dying to be Me | Soul LoveSoul Love had an exclusive interview with Anita Moorjani. We have decided to publish the interview in the spoken language. This is part 1.

Soul Love: Anita, you write that before your near-death experience you never really loved yourself or saw the beauty of your own soul. Can you explain to us what our soul actually is?

Anita Moorjani: You can reach your soul through the heart and through your emotions. Your soul is your essence, it’s who you are and it’s who you came here to be. It is the real you that is not your physical body. It’s that light, that baby that you were right after birth. You were more connected to your soul at that time. 
You came here, happy, laughing, wanting to experience life and that light gets diminished by the years as we go into our physical lives. You get reprimanded, you get put down and get taught fears. So your soul, your light in fact, becomes smaller, it actually gets suppressed. I can explain it to you with the following example.
Imagine a beach ball, like an inflatable beach ball. When you try to push it down in the water, it pushes back, right? So, it’s not that the beach ball gets smaller, but the water pushes and pushes and pushes against it. It’s just like that with the physical you and the outside world. So basically, your soul starts to drown. That beach ball is like being pushed under water all the time and always fighting to come out.

My point is that your emotions are really your messenger, they tell you who that beautiful soul is. Every time that you push it down, you’re sending yourself a message that you are not worthy to show yourself and that you are not worthy to express who you are. Every time you suppress yourself, you say ‘no’ when you mean ‘yes’, and so on. You are actually making yourself small and give yourself a message: “I am not worthy, I am not good enough, that’s why I have to hide, I have to push myself down”. 
You should allow your essence, your emotions to express themselves. Your emotions want to be joyful. That’s what they want. And when you allow your emotions to find what is joyful and follow what is joyful, that’s when you are in touch with your soul. That’s what your soul is.

SL: In your book ‘Dying to be Me’ you explain the ‘I am Love’. What does love look, feel and sound like to you?

AM: That’s a very good question. I think that we overuse the word love in our society and it becomes very cliche. We say that “we love our car”, “I love my computer”, you know, we really overuse the word love. But love actually is really who we are in essence.
Try to imagine that you are no longer with your physical body. Your body is gone. You will then realize that you are not your physical body and that inside (and all over) you, somebody is looking out through your eyes. And that somebody doesn’t have a physical body, that somebody has no race, has no specific skin colour and you are no longer a white person and I am no longer a brown person, we don’t have a gender, you are no longer male because that is part of your physical body, you no longer have your culture, because that is a cultural conditioning that your physical body was born into. All of these elements are part of being in the physical. So what is left is just pure essence, that is actually love. Because it has no filters, it has not developed all the layers of conditioning, ego, fear and all these layers because all of that is being built up with the culture, with the race, the gender and all these things.
You are just pure essence, pure love. When you can see somebody for their essence and not for their layers and layers of conditioning… that is love!

SL: Wow, that’s the most pure description of love I have ever heard!

AM: It is our root, it’s who we are. It might sound a little complicated, but I believe that love is being able to see someone’s soul.
It is also not our intention to hurt other people and believe it or not, even serial killers, murderers and rapists don’t come into the world with the intention of hurting other people. But something goes wrong along the way with their filters. If you can remove all those filters, again all you will find underneath is that pure essence.

SL: You meet many people who follow a particular religion. You prefer not to talk much about it as you believe it can become divisive, but what if people want to truly live your message and also stay true to the principles of their religion?

Anita Moorjani quote | Soul LoveAM: I tell people that I have no problem with religion per se but I think that people who believe in anything because of a fear, whether it is religion, cultural values or anything and they choose to believe them because of fear, then they already live a hellish life. That is hell on earth. If you believe that when you die, unless you follow the right order, the right doctrine or have the right values, you are being punished for eternity and if these are the only reasons for following what you follow, you create a hell on earth for yourself. You don’t have to wait until you die to go to hell. Your life is already one.

But whereas people choose a religion, one where you choose to practice because it makes you strong, because it makes you more loving, because it gives you peace, because it gives you answers about your life and it will give you comfort and it gives you a sense of community, by all means follow it. So my point is, make the choice that is more loving to yourself. Not a choice which makes you more fearful. This counts for every aspect in your life, including religion. That is where I am at. I respect everybody, regardless what they believe.

SL: You have said: “If I’d known the truth of who I actually am, I wouldn’t have gotten cancer.” Ralph Waldo Emerson once wrote: “To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment.” I believe that this is our biggest challenge. How can we practically achieve this?

AM: Yes, this is our biggest challenge. And one of the things I also tend to tell people is to be prepared, because when you decide that you are going to be yourself, you will often feel like you are rowing against the current. On the other hand, when you follow your heart, you can surrender to your higher self and allow who you are and allow your heart to lead you. You will lose yourself when you are constantly worried about what other people are thinking and constantly trying to fit in, always having to compete and getting ahead.

We fear failing and not being accepted and so we are constantly worried about that and we make choices based on wanting to appear more successful, appear more accepted and that’s how we lose our authenticity. You may think that the easier way to follow the heart is doing things for how they appear to be rather for who you are but in actuality you are internally killing yourself, you are going against something inside.

So you always have a choice, you either swim against yourself, your heart, or you swim against the crowd. Which one do you surrender to? I actually prefer to go with the flow of my heart. And to get back to your question, I am so grateful that I developed cancer. It was the biggest gift of my life, because it made me understand things so much better and it made me able to better relate to other people as well.

Anita, thank you so much for this inspiring interview.
You can continue to read the interview in part 2 here.

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